My Love Affair With Writer Men

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I don’t know if you’ve ever been pursued by a writer. But for me, writers seem to always be the most consistent type of man I keep attracting.

I’ve stop trying to figure out why this is always the case, I’ve rather accepted my fate. Besides, it isn’t the worst kind.

The first man I ever fell in love with was chairman of the poetry club in the University we both attended. I didn’t know this until he wrote me my first poem. While he kept reading his lyrical words to me, I kept thinking with great delight “I’m in an actual poem.”

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Life Is Full Of Sweet Mistakes & Love Is An Honest One To Make

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His breathing is getting louder.

It’s his body letting me know he’s falling asleep.

The weight of his head under the tip of my elbow gets heavier.

I can feel his sleepy leg slowly loosening it’s tight grip around my naked thigh.

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Coming To Terms With All The Times I Wanted To Die

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The beach has always been a place I frequented growing up. Adults took us there to play and create special childhood memories. 

I clearly never got the memo because I’d get into my swimwear and rush to the deepest part of sea until I’d start drowning.

I took swimming lessons all throughout my primary and high school years, I’ve always known how to swim. I just chose not to.

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This Messy Thing Called Love

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You’re awake but pretending to be asleep in your own bed.

You freeze when he whispers your name. You want him gone. You want to erase him out of your flat. But you can’t.

So, you get up and lock yourself in the bathroom. You fill the bathtub with hot water, your skin burns when you get in. But you want it too. You want to feel something else besides the disgusting reminder that you make bad decisions.

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Navigating Sex As A Church Girl

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A year ago, I moved to Johannesburg as a 27 year old woman who’d never had penetrative sex with a man.  

A decision that was first prompted by being brought up in a Christian home.

However, as I grew older, the decision to wait for marriage eventually became my own, a personal decision that defined how I chose to navigate the intimacy aspect of my life.

I abstained because sex with any other man besides my husband was considered sinful, against God’s principles and those of my church doctrine, and I agreed.

I willfully obliged…

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